Beat up the baby
Friday, February 6th, 2009 | Weight Loss | No Comments
When a baby learns to walk, she falls down a lot in the process. She ventures out to do something she has never done before, and then falls right on her face. She cries. She is loved and nurtured by someone. Then later, she tries it again. Soon, she will have tried and failed too many times to count. But something inside her pushes her to keep trying. She is able to do so because in between each new try, she is loved and nurtured and returns back to a state of contentment and security. It is then from this state of contentment and security that she has the courage and trust to again venture out and build on her past mistakes.
Trying to lose weight may take several attempts before you learn enough about the process and enough about yourself to finally succeed. When regression happens, and when you fall back into old patterns of food addiction, overeating, or binging, you MUST love and nurture yourself instead of beating yourself up. If you beat yourself up, you will not have the courage to believe in your success the next time…leading to a half-assed effort ending in failure. Recognize how you talk to yourself, and imagine you are dealing with a baby learning to walk. Nurture, nurture, nurture. Love, love, love. Have compassion, pateince, and understanding. Beating yourself help hurts. It is harmful. It induces nothing but pain and it in fact sets your projection for how you will behave.
Recognize how you talk to yourself. Try to love yourself. Pure love. Be your friend. Be your support. It is more important than you may ever realize.